Purpose Driven Motherhood
"Motherhood...it's not something you do if you can squeeze the time in, it is what God gave you time for." -- Rachel Jankovic, quoted by Neil L. Anderson
Friday, December 17, 2021
Thursday, October 28, 2021
Upcoming Class for LDS Parents of LGBTQ Kids
Art is "Jesus Said Love Everyone" by J. Kirk Richards and is used by permission.
"After my child came out, Becky was among the first people I reached out to for support. She really understands the complexity of being an LDS parent of LGBTQ kids. Her insights have helped me strengthen my relationship with my child and love as the Savior loves. Becky’s wisdom and expertise will help anyone navigating the experience of parenting an LGBTQ child." - Tiffany
- Do I have to choose between my child and my faith in Christ?
- Am I crazy to feel a roller coaster of emotions? A grieving process?
- How to navigate a faith crisis?
- How can I strengthen my relationship with my child if they're making choices differently than I would like?
- Release the heavy burdens of emotion
- Seek and receive personal revelation to find peace and trust
- Discover faithful ways of navigating ambiguity and paradoxes
- Supporting their child and strengthening their relationship
Friday, September 17, 2021
Life on Purpose program is starting next week!
"Becky shares simple tools that allow us to take charge of our minds and emotions. Powerful, life-changing concepts that help us break through walls and upgrade our relationships, our thoughts, our moods, and the Heavenly inspiration we receive. This Life on Purpose program has truly changed my life and my relationship with my Heavenly Parents and my Jesus! I am so grateful!" - Cay
The Second Coming is getting closer. There is a lot going on.
Fear, confusion, mental health struggles, exhaustion. The adversary seems to be working overtime. Many are feeling overwhelmed and stuck and don't know what to do next.
As a faith-based mentor, I have never seen a greater need than now for the tools the Life on Purpose program teaches - to manage and upgrade our own thoughts, emotions, relationships, inspiration, order, habits and self-mastery, and to overcome obstacles to accomplish what we feel called to do, whether in or out of our home, or both.
We're starting on Saturday, September 25.
Click the link to check out the program and register.
There's a deep discount through Tuesday, Sept 21 and some amazing bonuses!
If you're a faith-based person, I invite you to check in with God to see if this program feels right for you. If it does, I'm excited to have you join us! It's going to be an amazing ten weeks!
"Becky's faith-based mentoring program has given me access to tools and reprogramming new habits in a way I have never experienced in any other self-improvement program I have taken. Her Progress Tracker is my planner going forward forever. I love it. The goal posters have pushed me to break through hang-ups about goals in the past and helped me realize the accomplishment. It is a powerful part of the program. A better understanding of how to connect with heaven and hear Them has changed my perspective of those who live on the other side of the veil and I have learned through letters to heaven and heaven journaling they are closer than I ever realized and learning how to hear and receive messages of strength and encouragement from them has been such a blessing in my life. Becky herself is such an inspired and fun leader. Her happiness is contagious and her spirit is deeply touching. I love the changes I am making in my future from being involved in the Life on Purpose training." - Vicki
Tuesday, June 29, 2021
Post #10 - (Part 2 - Continued from Part 1)
(Click here to see part 1 of this post)
- The first document is quotes of current teachings compiled by Richard Ostler: “Perspectives on Ministering to LGBTQ Church Members.” Many of the current quotes in this post came from this document.
- The second document is quotes of past teachings compiled by Kyle Ashworth: “On the Record: A Chronology of LGBTQ+ Messaging” (Trigger warning: These quotes were painful for me to read, and if you’re a person who has already experienced church-related trauma, reading these quotes will likely be triggering. Even though it was heavy, I’m glad I read the quotes so I can empathize with the pain of LGBTQ members (thus keeping my baptismal covenant to mourn, bear, and comfort), better understand our history, and appreciate the positive changes our church has been making over time. I read them over a year ago and more quotes have been added since. Please use your own discretion.)
Post #10 (Part 1) - What church teachings have changed over time about LGBTQ people? (The five C’s)
Q - What church teachings have changed over time about LGBTQ people? (The five C’s)
A - Latter-day Saint teachings about LGBTQ people have changed significantly over the years.
- M. Russell Ballard said: "Too many people think Church leaders and members should be perfect or nearly perfect … Our leaders have the best intentions, but sometimes we make mistakes.” ("God Is at the Helm." Oct 2015 General Conference)
- Dieter F. Uchtdorf said: “To be perfectly frank, there have been times when members or leaders in the Church have simply made mistakes. There may have been things said or done that were not in harmony with our values, principles, or doctrine. I suppose the Church would be perfect only if it were run by perfect beings. God is perfect, and His doctrine is pure. But He works through us—His imperfect children—and imperfect people make mistakes.” ("Come Join With Us." Oct 2013 General Conference)
- Bruce R. McConkie, soon after the lifting of the priesthood and temple ban for black people said: “Forget everything that I have said, or what President Brigham Young or whomsoever has said in days past that is contrary to the present revelation. We spoke with a limited understanding and without the light and knowledge that now has come into the world.” (“All Are Alike Unto God,” BYU Address, August 18, 1978)
- Dallin H. Oaks, in the 2018 “Be One Celebration” which honored 40 years since the lifting of the priesthood and temple ban for black people, said: “I observed the pain and frustration experienced by those who suffered these restrictions and those who criticized them and sought for reasons. I studied the reasons then being given and could not feel confirmation of the truth of any of them.” (2018 Be One Celebration)
- Brigham Young said: "I do not even believe that there is a single revelation, among the many God has given to the Church that is perfect in its fullness. ... We are not capacitated to throw off in one day all our traditions, and our prepossessed feelings and notions, but have to do it little by little." (Journal of Discourses 2:309-317.)
Monday, June 21, 2021
Post #9 - Why all the labels? Straight people don't use labels. And what do all these letters mean, anyway?
Q - Why all the labels? Straight people don’t use labels. And what do all these letters mean, anyway?
A - You’re right that straight people don’t need to label themselves or to come out because in our heteronormative culture, people assume you’re straight and treat you as such unless you let them know otherwise.
- “LGBTQ: Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer; those who are not heterosexual or cisgender"
- “Lesbian: Female with sexual orientation to same sex"
- “Gay: Male or female with sexual orientation to same sex"
- “Same-Sex Attraction: Male or female with sexual orientation to same sex"
- “Bisexual: Male or female with sexual orientation to both sexes"
- “Transgender: Person whose gender identity or gender expression does not match their biological sex"
- “Gender Dysphoria: Distress a person feels when their gender identity does not match their biological sex"
- “Cisgender: Person whose gender identity matches their biological sex
- “Non-binary: Person whose gender identity is not exclusively masculine or feminine"
- “Cishet: Person who is both cisgender and heterosexual"
- “Queer: Umbrella term for someone who is not straight and/or not cisgender, or questioning"
- “Pansexual: Person who is attracted to people regardless of their gender
- “Asexual: Person who is attracted to no one”
- Demisexual: Person who is attracted to no one until they are emotionally bonded to one person
- Gender-fluid: Person who may go back and forth between identifying with female or male