Thursday, March 11, 2021

Who is ready for a spring recharge, refresh, renewal? Join our one-day retreat!


"I LOVED THIS DAY put on by Becky and Julie!  Becky’s genuine love and light-filled personality are HEALING. The Spirit was here and I learned so much through personal revelation. I’m so glad I got to be here! I felt encouraged on my journey, lifted by the Spirit, and I made new friendships that have blessed my life. It was like an oasis to refresh my spirit! I loved hearing Julie Nelson play BEAUTIFUL music.  I loved what she taught us about the power of music to heal us.  She is such an angel, with a calming, happy, gentle spirit." - Lorraine States

Spring is here!

Who is ready for a spring recharge, refresh, renewal? A day of soul-nurturing and nourishment? 

We are! And we hope you'll join us.

Saturday, March 27 from 9-5 MST

Join online from anywhere in the world

We know many people are feeling frazzled, lonely, overwhelmed, and heavily burdened.

We are designing this day to help us feel lighter, more refreshed, recharged, connected, more filled with light and hope.



Join us for an inspiring, hands-on day of...

  • The healing power of music
  • Improving mental health with healthy self-love and self-care (and myths that can get in the way)
  • Connecting with other faith-based women
  • Seeking Heavenly Mother (Including prophetic quotes that debunk myths)
  • Meditation and movement
  • Experience the power of intention  
  • Time-friendly ways to invite heaven's inspiration
  • Leave feeling rejuvenated, recharged, renewed, filled with more light, peace, and hope 
  • This will be presented from the context of our faith, which is the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The event is not sponsored by the Church. And anyone is welcome!
  • We will have several guest presenters! 

If you aren't able to participate live, you'll have access to the replay for two weeks, until April 10. (And if you do watch the retreat live, you'll be able to re-watch any parts you like for two weeks.)


Through  March 18, you get 50% off AND Buy-One-Get-One-Free! Click here for details. 


You can split the fee or gift this to a loved one and both enjoy the day together, even if you live across the globe from each other!

We are envisioning some mothers and daughters joining us for the day. It might make a fun early Mother's Day gift. Or invite anyone who comes to mind. 

 If you have questions about the event, please email becky@purposedrivenmentoring.com


Special Guest! Julie Nelson will present on The Light and Healing Power of Music 

You can check out Julie's and her husband Steve's The Piano Guys video here or the extended version here.


Prize Giveaways! 

  • Heaven Journaling Journal
  • 365 Days Closer to Christ Through Personal Revelation (quote-a-day calendar)
  • Becky's favorite Heaven Journaling pens
  • Scholarships to Becky's online courses and programs!
  • An oil lamp from Jerusalem


Through  March 18, you get 50% off AND Buy-One-Get-One-Free! Click here for details. 


About Becky 

Hi, I’m Becky. I am a faith-based mentor, blogger, author, and speaker -- including at BYU Women's Conference and BYU-Idaho Education Week. I love combining mentoring expertise with LDS faith-based principles to help people improve their inspiration, mindset, relationships, and habits to overcome obstacles, achieve their goals, and fulfill their divine life purpose. It brings me joy!

For as long as I can remember, I’ve had several burning passions - personal improvement, personal revelation, and wanting to accomplish my divine life purpose. Now my passion is to help others grow in those same areas. I believe every person was born to make a difference, both in and out of their homes, and it thrills me to support people in becoming and doing what they were born to become and do.  

I used to be a seminary and institute teacher for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, professional organizer, coach for a mentoring program, and homeschooler.  

I graduated from BYU studying marriage, parenting, and counseling. I’ve created systems for scripture feasting, power praying, and Heaven Journaling, which has been taught to thousands of people across the globe.

I offer events, courses, and personal and group mentoring programs. My blog has over a million page views. I have overcome my own challenges such as depression, body issues including an eating disorder, focus and memory issues, and chronic chaos.

I’m married to the love of my life, Mike, and we live in Northern Utah. We have five children and three granddaughters. I love sunshine, walking barefoot in the grass, journaling, dark chocolate, smoothies, and collecting inspiring talks and quotes. 


About our Guest Presenter Julie Nelson  

I am a mommy of 4 and married to my prince charming, a rock star in a cellist kind of way. When I’m not playing cook, doctor, or disciplinarian, you will usually find me hiding in the music room at the piano, or with either a guitar or violin in hand. My years of BYU-Hawaii attending, volleyball playing, backpack adventuring, violin teaching and holistic health coaching have molded me into the wild and peculiar woman I am grateful to be! For me, there is nothing better than shining His light by empowering another to find their life’s purpose. 

Wife of Steven Sharp Nelson of the Piano Guys, we find ourselves surrounded with music at home. Having 30 years of music experience under my belt, Steve and I have been able to perform together on the stages of Abravanel Hall, throughout North America and Europe and at the Sydney Opera House. Steve and I have no doubt found that music pierces the soul where the spoken word cannot penetrate. It is a powerful light gift from God for the purpose of experiencing joy and healing. 

I am a certified Holistic Nutritionist through AFPA and Herbalist through the Homegrown Herbalist with Patrick Jones. Starting my business, Happy to be Healthy, my passion lies in health mentoring individuals who are ready for an upgrade in their lives…those looking to find Wholeness and Healing. With my toolbox of healing modalities such as powerhouse nutrition, herbs, essential oils, meditation, visualization, detoxing and music therapy, my clients find joy with this total mind-body experience, as they are then able to step into living their full potential and purpose.

Becky is an inspiring example of pure love and acceptance. She is a shining light, and is a positive, encouraging influence. We all feel better about ourselves just from being around her!  I cannot express how grateful I am to have found Becky’s programs. It is a blessing I will be thankful for the rest of my life! - Cay Cox 


Through  March 18, you get 50% off AND Buy-One-Get-One-Free! Click here for details. 


For two years in a row, Julie and I have hosted a Heaven Journaling retreat together. This retreat has fresh topics and it will be online rather than in person. We hope that next year, we'll be able to meet in person again. 


Julie Nelson is a gifted musician and an inspiring presenter. 

Saturday, February 20, 2021

Empathy is a Learnable Skill that Helps Us Keep our Baptismal Covenants



Today I gave a two-hour training about empathy.

Many of us weren't taught this skill growing up. But what's hopeful is that empathy IS a learnable skill.
I took the group through an exercise where I invited them to close their eyes while I read a list of empathy phrases, imagining going through a challenging experience, and how hearing those phrases felt to them.
Then I read a list of anti-empathy phrases and again, invited the people share how those felt to them.
I love learning from contrast in this way. It helps us really see and feel the difference and be motivated to learn and do better.
When someone is in pain, we can have good intentions when we want to help them feel better so we often dismiss their pain, defend against it, try to fix it, or preach at them. Even with good intentions, the impact is often more pain.

Here are a few of the empathy phrases I shared:
- That sounds rough.
- Thank you for sharing that with me. It helps me understand better.
- So sorry for your pain.
- I’m a safe place if you need a listening ear.
- I’m sitting with you in your pain.
- I’m here with you.
- Tell me more.
- Tell me what your heart is going through.
- I don’t know what this feels like, but I want you to know that I love you.

Here are a few of the non-empathy phrases I shared:
- Don’t feel that way. Don’t worry about it.
- At least it’s not as bad as _____. It could be worse.
- In the next life it will all work out.
- Don’t feel sad. You should be over that by now.
- Just pull yourself up by your bootstraps.


Empathy can help us:

- Keep our baptismal covenants to bear, mourn, and comfort (Mosiah 18:8-9).
- Build better relationships
- Have respectful conversations even while disagreeing
- Build Zion with unity amid diversity
- Love and see ourselves and others as God does
- Empathy can even save lives

How do YOU feel when your pain is met with empathy?
How do YOU feel when your pain is met with non-empathy?
I'm so grateful that when we know better, we can do better.



Saturday, February 6, 2021

Why I Wear Rainbow Things (When they Used to Make Me Uncomfortable)

 


This is my adorable granddaughter wearing a rainbow sweater made with hand-dyed yarn made by her mama Malia Breckenridge.

Since my son Hyrum is gay, I've become a fan of wearing rainbow things.
I wear a rainbow ring every day.

I have several rainbow t-shirts.

I just ordered a rainbow "I'll Walk with You" face mask from Q.Noor.

I also have a fun rainbow sweater in my Amazon cart. (I just need to decide which background color I like best.)
I also love seeing my kids buying, creating, or wearing rainbow gear.
Why?
Because I love that my kids love their gay brother.
Because I love that my kids love showing support and solidarity to a community that has been pushed to the margins.
Although we've made a lot of progress, we still have a long way to go.
A couple other moms of LGBTQ+ kids in my area started taking a morning walk together each week. Recently on our walk we spotted a home with a rainbow flag.
I couldn't help myself.

I knocked on the door of a perfect stranger's home. And with tears in my eyes, I thanked her for flying that flag.

Seeing it helps me feel less alone. Seeing it helps our kids feel less alone.
Seeing it can even save lives.
So why do I now like rainbow things, when before I used to feel uncomfortable around them?
Because I love so many of God's children who are LGBTQ+.
Because I take my covenant seriously to mourn with those who mourn, comfort those in need of comfort, and bear one another's burdens.
Because I love the message of my favorite primary song, "I'll Walk With You."
Because Jesus said the most important things in life are to love God and love others, especially the least of these, or those on the margins.
Because that's who Jesus spent his time with.
And I want to be like Jesus.
Because Christ said that all are alike unto God, and that God is no respecter of persons.
Because my personal revelation tells me to.
Because these are some of the best souls I've ever met.
Because this community has been repeatedly wounded, and I always want to be a source of healing.
And because I know that seeing visual support like this can make a difference to a community where loneliness, depression, and suicidal ideation are far too common.
I wear rainbows because I love God's children.
That's why.

Wednesday, August 26, 2020

What team are we on? Team Jesus.

 

What team are we on? 

Team Jesus. 

I just gave a training about this. 

"You're an evil idiot if you don't wear a mask." 

"You're an evil fool if you wear a mask."

Masks are just one of many divisive topics of our day. 

  • Holistic healing vs medical treatment.
  • Covid vs plandemic.
  • Homeschool vs public school.
  • Racism. 
  • LGBTQ.

We know this list could go on and on and on. 

But here's the thing. 

Did Satan trick us into thinking it's us against THEM? 

When it's really us against HIM? 

Who's the real enemy here?

Whose team are we on, anyway?

Team Jesus. 

I'm not talking about evil people who traffic children or maliciously cause harm to others.

I'm talking about your neighbor, your sister, your ward member who has a differing opinion than you about one of today's hot topics. 

Perhaps her news sources are different than yours. 

Perhaps his political priorities are different because he experiences pain in ways you have not. 

It can be easy to vilify, demonize, and shame people who have different education sources and worldview than you do about a certain topic. 

Whose team are we on? 

Team Jesus. 

I'm not saying we're supposed to all have the same opinion, think the same, look the same.
 
That would be oh, so boring. 

I would never want to live in a world of me clones. 

Never.

But when Captain Moroni was working his heart out to protect freedom, guess what ruined everything? 

His own team fighting against his own team.
 
That meant when the enemy arrived, his team was too busy fighting each other and they weren't ready to fight the real enemy. 

The real enemy.

What team are we on? 

Team Jesus. 

What was often the very beginning of the pride cycle in the Book of Mormon over and over and over? 

Contention. "I'm better than you." Divisiveness. 

Sound familiar? 

Christ created our baptismal covenants to mourn, bear, and comfort. 
Not to villainize, shame, and hate those with differing views.

Can we learn to listen with the intent to understand, rather than to judge or marginalize? 

What did Jesus say was the most important, the very tippy-top highest law of all laws? 

Love God and love others as you love yourself. 

What did Paul say was the very most important spiritual gift, that even if you had faith to move mountains or could speak with the tongue of angels, if you didn't have THIS gift, it didn't really matter what other gifts you had? 

Charity.
 
The pure love of Christ. 

What team are we on? 

Team Jesus. 

What can you and I do to remember it's not us versus THEM?

It's us against HIM. 

The adversary is the real enemy of Team Jesus.


Saturday, August 15, 2020

Is it worth it?


Is it worth it?

If you feel called by God to do something, there is risk.

It can be tempting to hold back, play small, or hide because of self-doubts or fear.

Fear that people might judge you, might misjudge your intentions, criticize or disagree with you.

I had an experience with this after a webinar I gave a couple of days ago.

We had a lot of tech issues with Zoom so I stayed up late to re-record the webinar to send to the 500+ people who registered so they'd have a week to watch it. I finished recording late at night and felt utterly exhausted.

Then I opened an email.

It was a woman yelling at me, harshly criticizing me.

She thought any webinar related to faith should be 100% free content, and not have an offer for people to purchase more content. 

After reeling from the hurt, I thought about how grateful I am that so many others follow promptings to create faith-based books, music, art, or audio CDs that I have purchased that bless my life. 

I love my Sheri Dew books, my Steven Sharp Nelson music, my Jesus and angel art around my house, and my Hank Smith CDs. It's a good thing those people don't agree with that woman, or the shelves at Deseret Book would be empty. 

I thought of how I'm doing my best to follow God's direction to me to create a business being a faith-based mentor, speaker, blogger, and author. I do give plenty of free firesides and such, and I also have times when I charge because that's how business works, after all. 

The webinar was valuable, free content, with a short segment of offering a paid program for those interested. The woman was incredulous. 

I was too tired to deal with the emotions that welled up from feeling attacked, so I used a few quick faith-based mentoring tools to calm myself and went to bed.

Early the next morning I had a mentoring session where the client expressed awareness that she's been hiding, playing small, and holding back because of fear. Fear of being judged, misjudged, or falsely accused.

This thought popped into both my mind and my client's mind.

"What if Joseph Smith or Jesus held back because of fear of being criticized?"

That fear would have kept them from fulfilling their missions.

Here's the truth.

There is a risk when we step out of our comfort zone and step into doing what God calls us to do.

It happened to Jesus. To Joseph Smith. To Joseph of Egypt. To Nephi. To Alma. To Joan of Arc. To Martin Luther King, Jr. To missionaries. To converts. To me. Perhaps to you too.

People may criticize you.

They may judge you.

They may misjudge you.

Is it worth the risk?

I'm sure grateful Jesus chose to accept the risk and accomplish His mission.

I'm sure grateful Joseph did. And many other heroes.

Yes, to me, it's worth the risk to do what I feel God calling me to do.

And I'm very grateful to have mentoring tools to help me work through the emotions when it happens.

How about you?

Saturday, August 8, 2020

Do we sometimes label a person by their worst moment?




Do we sometimes label a person by their worst moment?

By their sin? Their addiction? Their weakness?
Like Doubting Thomas?

Do I want someone to label me by my worst moment? Heck no.

But Satan wants all of us to. He wants us to take on our mistakes, our sins, our weaknesses as our identity. He feeds us lies about who we really are.

Today I gave a training in my Life on Purpose program about this concept.

Let's give ourselves grace. et's give other people grace.

One of my favorite metaphors is this.

A parent knows that a toddler learning how to walk includes lots of mistakes, falling, bumps and bruises, but that the messiness is the ONLY way to learn how to walk, which then allows the child to run, jump, skip, climb, and dance.

Do we shame that toddler because they fell? Because the toddler didn't get it right the first or second or third time?

No. We love that toddler. We are excited that they're learning how to walk! We celebrate and cheer them on. We understand the fact that it's messy and takes time. That doesn't discourage us because we trust the process.

We know it's totally worth it.

I love picturing our Heavenly Parents loving us through our messiness and mistakes of learning how to become like them in a similar way that we parents love our toddlers through the messiness and mistakes of learning how to walk.

I believe that our Heavenly Parents don't shame us because we fall. Or because we don't get it right the first or second or third time.

No, they love us. They are excited that we are learning, growing, progressing, becoming incrementally more like them as time goes on. They're not discouraged that the process is messy and takes time. They know Jesus is more powerful than all our mistakes.

They know it's totally worth it.

They LOVE us and CELEBRATE with us.

Let's not label ourselves or each other like Satan wants us to.

Let's follow our Heavenly Parents' lead. Let's remember that we are actually Their child and we're learning how to become like Them.

And it's okay if it's messy and takes time.

It's totally worth it.

Wednesday, July 1, 2020

Why do I wear rainbow t-shirts and rings?


I'll be honest, I used to feel uncomfortable about rainbow flags and t-shirts and rings. Then two years ago I found out that my own son, Hyrum, is gay.



That started a deep dive into educating myself about LGBTQ people, hearing their stories, researching the science, and learning how to love bigger, better, and more expansively than I have before.

I've listened to countless podcasts, read quite a few books, attended many lectures and events, I'm active in a handful of Facebook groups, and I have discussions with my son daily. And I've gotten to know many amazing LGBTQ people personally.

I discovered that being an ally and loving my LGBTQ brothers and sisters helps me keep my baptismal covenants to mourn with those who mourn, comfort those in need of comfort, and bear one another's burdens.

It's been a journey I wouldn't trade for anything.



And my LGBTQ friends are some of the best people I know.

Seriously. Amazing. People.

So easy to love.

If you don't know any, I feel sad for you. Because you're missing out.

I love what Marion, another mom of an LGBTQ child said about rainbow flags. It describes my feelings too.

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Copied from Marion McClellan:



❤️๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿงก❤️
Why we fly a Rainbow Pride flag.
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We fly our rainbow flag for the LGBTQ+ children and teens in our community. We fly it so that the kids who walk or drive past our home know that we love them. We see them.

We fly our flag for these precious children’s parents. We fly the pride flag so that after their child musters all of their courage and bravery and comes out to them, those parents know that they have friends they can reach out to.

We fly this beautiful rainbow flag so that one child sees it, that one teen who is sure that there is no place for them in our community or in their family or in their congregation absolutely knows they ALWAYS have a place next to us.

Our flag is for that one LGBTQ+ person who is certain there is no place for them in this life. It is for the one child who isn’t sure they can live for one more day.

June is Pride month. Please join our family and show the LGBTQ+ children, youth, and adults in your neighborhood and family that they are loved and welcome.

It actually matters. It actually can help to save a life. ❤️๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’œ
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Click here for my blog post of resources for LDS parents of LGBTQ children.

Click here for a CNN video featuring three Mama Dragons I know of LGBTQ kids in my area.

Click here for a great blog post by my friend Ben Schilaty about pride being the opposite of shame.